14- Embrace the Now: Letting Go of Past Fitness Goals

Embrace the Now: Letting Go of Past Fitness Goals

Episode Overview:

• Topic: Letting go of the body you once had and finding peace with where you are now.
• Focus: Redefining athleticism as a mom and someone over 35.
• Personal Journey: Kat shares her experience transitioning from a college athlete to a mom finding new fitness goals.

Key Points:

• Chasing the Past: Reflecting on past fitness and the emotional struggle of comparing current self to former athletic peak.
• Reframing Mindset: Importance of shutting down negative self-talk and reaffirming current strength, worth, and capability.
• Redefining Athleticism: Understanding that athleticism can evolve and still be fulfilling beyond age 35.
• Building New Goals: Setting realistic and achievable fitness goals that fit into a busy lifestyle.
• Celebrating Small Victories: Acknowledging and appreciating progress and achievements, no matter how small.

Practical Advice:

• Mindset Shift: Focus on current abilities and potential rather than past achievements.
• Flexible Training: Embrace flexibility in workouts; short, consistent sessions are valuable.
• Positive Self-Talk: Replace negative thoughts with affirmations of strength and capability.
• Balanced Approach: Combine strength training with aerobic activities suited to your current fitness level.

Takeaways:

• Stop Chasing the Past: Let go of past fitness ideals and embrace your current body.
• Celebrate the Present: Enjoy your fitness journey and achievements.
• Empower Yourself: Your best self is right here, ready to be acknowledged and celebrated.

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Transcript

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Have you ever found yourself chasing the body you had maybe before kids in college or even high school only to feel frustrated and defeated? Let me tell you a secret. The fiercest, strongest version of you isn't in the past. It's here now waiting to be discovered. Welcome to miles from her view, the podcast, where we dive deep into the unfiltered reality of fitness, strength, training, and nutrition within womanhood and motherhood. I am your host, Kat, founder of Kat Fit Strength. I'm a career strength and conditioning coach, entrepreneur, lifelong athlete, and a mom of two active boys. In each episode, we explore For the unique challenges and triumphs faced by women navigating the complexities of life. From juggling family and career to prioritizing self care, we dissect the systems and the habits that shape our health and wellness. Join us for real stories, authentic advice, and genuine conversations as we empower each other to embrace our journeys and find strength in vulnerability. Welcome back to another episode of miles from review. I'm Kat, your host. And today we're diving into something that is deeply personal and transformative. Letting go of the body you once had and finding peace with where you are now. We'll explore how to redefine your athleticism as a mob and someone over the age of 35. This is a journey that I've been on myself, and I'm excited to share with you. Have you ever found yourself chasing a body that You once had think back to maybe that time where you're like, Ooh, if I could have a moment in that body in that time, how did it make you feel for me? It was the time when I was in college. I was a college athlete. I competed in track and field. And during that time, it was really the pinnacle of how I felt power and strength and speed in my body. And it is something that wanted to get back to, especially after having my first child. It has been a baseline for me to compare myself to as that was how good I felt then. And why do I not feel that good now? So when I had my first child and I got back to my workouts, I was ready to push myself hard to chase those feelings that I had in college. Even prior to having kids, I still felt that I still felt powerful, the speed and this I dare I say invincibility of my body. But when I had my first son and getting back to those workouts, I was in a bigger body. Things felt different. Things didn't feel as easy when I was working out. The power of strength wasn't there. The speed lacked. Everything felt different. So naturally those societal beliefs started to build these stories in my head that my body's broken. And, you know, this is my new reality that I will never feel that fierce power and speed that I had in college, that I will never be able to get stronger. And every workout I kept going into, I kept pushing myself. I kept thinking back, thinking back. To that time and comparing myself to where I was then to where I am now in that frustration, guilt and shame built up. So every workout just became this comparison game. And when I was looking at old photos, I became, became envious of my younger self. This made me miserable in my new changed body, the body that brought two boys into this world. I knew I needed to stop. Either I need to just give up on my quest for strength and moving my body, or I needed to change my viewpoint. And so that's when I realized that chasing my past wouldn't bring happiness. I needed to get really, really clear on where I was today, what my body could do today and understand that I needed to almost learn how to train my body again. That is tough because I knew what my body could do. And now here I am relearning my So what I did And it was really reframing my mindset. I had to shut down the negative thoughts. Anytime those negative thoughts bubbled up, I had to just stop them right then and there and speak out loud to myself in a reaffirming my strength, my worth, and my capability. And then I was able to take That time in my life, my college self and allow it to become a cheerleader that my college self had no idea wouldn't be able to potentially have learned so much over the years and wouldn't be able to do all the things I was and that showing up as a mom and a business owner and workouts was it took more strength to do that. I also had to redefine my athleticism. I may not be that 20 something, powerful, over, like, super strong athlete, but it's okay for it to look different. It's okay for me to explore different areas. have athleticism there. You know, we often try and think like athleticism is only, you know, when you're younger. But if you look now, I mean, we're in the Olympic season right now, and there are a ton of moms competing, whether they just had their first child or their kids are older and they are still in the game. And that is remarkable that when you get past 35 or 40, that your years of Discovering or maintaining your athlete athleticism has not. It is still possible, but we need to focus on what we can do now and celebrate the small victories and progress. And this means lifting weights twice a week or going for a run or just simply moving throughout the day is finding that new reality. Back in college, I could work out for, I trained for my sport six days a week and I could push myself so much harder. That doesn't mean that my, you know, now in my early forties that I can't do that. I need to evaluate things differently. I'm caring for two kids, raising two kids, running a business, having a household. Yes, my energy needs have changed a little because I'm not 20 and that's okay, but I can still do and push myself. the way I want to in the athletic realm. I can still push myself in the weight room. I can still push myself in runs, but it looks different and that is a hundred percent okay. So if you're finding yourself in this period of life where maybe you're discovering your athleticism for the first time post kids, or maybe you were an athlete on the college level, high school level, or whatever level of competition that you, Had in your twenties and you're trying to rediscover that really, really get clear on where you are now and strip away those thoughts of comparing and negativity. We don't want to blame ourselves for living our lives. Show up for yourself, not in an overly positive way. It's okay to be in a body and not be okay with how it feels, but it's not going to help your progress and growth to sit there and chastise, guilt, and shame yourself for living in the way your body is. Doing away with negative and shutting down that negative talk so that you can speak out. positively from place of growth enoughness and worthiness so that you can keep taking the next step. Now, the other thing is embrace flexibility. When you're in your twenties, you have a lot less responsibility, especially in your early twenties. Potentially, and this is again, a general term, their thought is you may not have had kids in your early twenties and life was different. So your time was yours. You may be working, you may have been in college, but you had more time to work out more or do other things or challenge yourself in different ways where now when you have kids, a job, a home in some capacity to care for that. embracing that flexibility and knowing that a 30 minute workout is just as great as a three hour workout. That if you can't, your lifestyle can't support a three hour workout, that's fine. You don't need a three hour workout 30 minute workout. You can see just as many benefits and that is great. So look at where and become really clear where you're holding yourself to these comparison standards. That is just not reality realistic for you in the current season you're in. So to wrap up. Stop chasing the past and start celebrating who you are now. You are a powerhouse capable of incredible things. Embrace your current body to redefine your goals and find the joy in the journey. Your best self is not behind you. It's right here waiting for you to acknowledge her. If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who might need to hear this message. And remember the doors to my signature KatFit strength program are now open. Whether you need one on one coaching or supportive community, there's a place for you here. Let's embark on this journey together. Thank you for joining me on another episode of miles from her view. Your support means the world to me, and I truly appreciate you being a part of our community. If you found today's episode helpful and want to stay informed about all things KatFit Strength, make sure to subscribe to our weekly newsletter. You'll receive exclusive insights, tips, and updates straight to your inbox. To sign up, simply visit the show notes or the subscription link. To discover more about KatFit Strength programs and how you can ignite your fitness journey, head over to our website at www. cat. fit. There you'll find everything you need. To invigorate your path to strength. Once again, thank you for tuning in and I can't wait to connect with you in our upcoming episodes. Take care and remember act to take the next step.